Yesterday Little M disappeared for two seconds, and my husband had seen her go in the bathroom with her “baby.” Her baby is a little white teddy bear that has a t-shirt with a map of Xian, China, where little M is from. We call him Xian bear, and he goes everywhere with her…she even sleeps with him. I went looking for her, and found Xian bear being dipped in the potty. She said he had poopoo. Ugh.

Little M will be three in a couple of months, and I think she is definitely ready to be potty trained, (like…a year ago) She is all about the toilet, and knows exactly what to do when she gets on it, but so far has shown no sign of telling us when she has to go.
Here is the dilemma. How does one potty train a toddler if that toddler doesn’t understand what you are saying? I have no earthly idea where to even begin. I even start to hyperventilate a little just thinking about it.
Anyone want to come do it for me? Just kidding…kind of.


  1. amy on January 10, 2011 at 8:57 pm

    M & M's are the answer, I've never met a kid to did not speak \”candy\”, and I am sure she understands more than she is letting on 🙂 Put her on the potty regularly (ever 30 minutes to start) and if she preforms, reward her and she will figure out how to communicate what she needs with you if she is ready. Good luck!

  2. Melissa on January 10, 2011 at 11:20 pm

    Maybe it won't be as bad as you think – my two were actually super easy (ducking and running LOL). I agree with the previous poster – M&M's are key.

  3. Girlventures on January 10, 2011 at 11:42 pm

    I know you have a story in there but all I saw was the cutest little girl ever.

  4. Lisa A : Izabella on January 11, 2011 at 1:29 am

    Precious pictures!! She's a Xi'an sweetie for sure. 🙂 Sounds like she knows what the potty is for…for her bear anyway…I learned potty training is like learning to drive a stick shift car, it requires the child to learn how to do multiple things all at once and in oder precisely…like first recognize the feeling her body gives her when she \”has to go\”, Then realizing the \”sign\” soon enough to make it to the potty, then knowing to go to the potty in the first place..etc. Makes sense. All kids are different, i'm sure you know this…and suddenly one day, she will get all the timing right and it will be done. 🙂 Izabella (same orphanage) wasn't potty trained until she was home 8 months. She still wears pull-ups to bed–but I am told the ability to hold it through the night doesn't kick in til 4's or so. So..we're not stressing about that. I'd think the hard part of potty training would be disciplining that cut face.

  5. Jen on January 11, 2011 at 2:08 am

    Ew for her baby! I hope that went straight into the wash, even if the instructions say not to wash it!I also think she understands more than you think. Even Joshua has gone potty before and he says less than M says. I agree to just put her on the potty at regular intervals, telling her what you're doing, even if you can't ask and get an answer yet. Eventually she'll probably just run to the potty herself when she needs to go.Good luck! What a cutie!

  6. Beth on January 11, 2011 at 6:03 am

    OMG, that cute little face… I LOVE IT!!! I agree with the M&M's and using the potty regularly…she'll get it!!

  7. KJ on January 11, 2011 at 4:11 pm

    Potty training is more about training yourself than your child. Our oldest was going potty on the potty for 9 months before she actually could come and tell us she needed to go. Regular intervals ( we started w/ 20 mins) and rewards are key. She'll get it!!!!

  8. Annie on January 11, 2011 at 6:38 pm

    Well if baby bear knows where to go, then she does so that is a step in the right direction! Good luck! Her expressions make me so happy! What a dolly!

  9. a Tonggu Momma on January 12, 2011 at 6:40 pm

    That's a start! We actually waited until the Tongginator's third birthday. We used a checklist created by a mom with special needs children to determine when to even start trying. A couple of things to look for:can the child communicate (even non-verbally) that she needs to go?can the child pull up and push down her own pants?is the child aware of when she has to go?If she can't do at least those three things, she's probably not ready. Although lots of people rave that their newly-turned two-year-olds are potty-trained, the average age for girls is 2.5 (which means some are three or 3.5) and the average age for boys is three (which means some are even 3.5 or four).In the method we used, you try for three or four days and, if it doesn't work, you stop and wait another two or three months. And during those three days, you keep the child naked from the waist down. That way it's either the floor or the toilet. Works very well for children with certain special needs (our daughter has SPD). Let us know what you try and how it works for you. I'll be doing this again in a few years and realize that every child is different.

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