Little M, my little girl, is the most beautiful little girl I know. She is beautiful, confident, and strong. And she loves to wear her hair up. Little M loves pony tails and braids.
She LOVES them, and I am happy to give her whatever hairstyle she likes.
Twice, in the last couple months, someone has mentioned little M’s hair…and her ear.
One person, whom we know and whom should know better, mentioned that little M should wear her hair down to cover her ear. Ugh.
Last week, someone else (whom should also probably know better), whom we only know in passing, asked if we were getting her ear fixed. I said it was fine and didn’t need to be fixed, but we would have it reconstructed if that was what little M wanted. This person replied that little M would be much prettier when it was fixed.
And then, in my mind, I choked him a little bit. Maybe even a lot.
I replied that I didn’t know if my little girl could be more beautiful, and that she was already perfect.
But I was so mad. And I wanted to cry. Because my little girl may be missing an ear… but she has no trouble hearing. She hears what people say, and she understands it. She may not speak clearly, but she understands 100% of what she hears.
Adults should know better…and adults need to watch what they say in front of kids, because kids can hear. And this mommy might have the potential for violence if my child is hurt by someone’s words.
I do NOT like my daughter hearing negative things…especially negative things about her perfect little self. It makes me feel sick that she can hear someone say that she needs fixed, or that she would be prettier if she were different.
Because my little M? Is perfect…just the way she is.