Testing, Testing…

It seems that little M has entered a new phase this week. For the past few days we have been subjected to an interesting phase…one of testing and trying. A not so enjoyable phase of tantrums and trouble.
Please, oh please, let it be a phase…
I don’t know if maybe everyone goes through these sort of phases with their children? She is cheerful and pleasant still, almost all of the time. She is only sometimes unhappy when she is in trouble. The rest of the time she is her usual self. Just with a good bit of testing thrown in.
It is those times of trouble that are baffling to me… The trying and the testing make me aware that I am not nearly as patient as I once thought myself to be.
I do NOT enjoy it. I miss my easygoing, sweet girl.
Maybe this is a school thing? Maybe the new changes have set her back a little? We have had many changes to our regular schedule lately, and school is a major one…

We are doing our best to remain consistent, loving, and firm. But I am really hoping this is a phase, and that this phase is very short-lived.
Please let it just be a phase…


  1. Musings from Kim K. on September 6, 2011 at 3:21 pm

    My little happy-go-lucky Josie thrown-down some nasty tantrums when her routine gets changed. Today she started morning kindergarten and then will attend new latch-key program in the afternoon. I'm guessing we're going to see some less-than-happy behavior later this week. Thinking of you!!

  2. Jo on September 6, 2011 at 9:26 pm

    When my niece started school she started behaving badly at home. She was an angel at school though. One theory was that she only had a quota of so much good behaviour to give, and she used it up at school and her poor parents got what was left over. Once she settled into the whole school/home routine she was fine.Good Luck!

  3. Tonya on September 6, 2011 at 11:42 pm

    Janie is in the same \”phase\” right now too!!

  4. Heather on September 8, 2011 at 2:12 am

    hi – i read your blog all the time, but I don't know if I have ever posted. i have two daughters, ages 9 and 11, and I 3 year old son who we adopted from Korea. i wish i could say its a phase… but don't count on it being a short lived one. its her job as a three year old to test you, challenge you, and begin to find her independence. from an attachment standpoint, i think its a good think (though i am NO expert) because it means she trusts you to let her push and pull – she knows you will love her regardless! hang in there! lucky she is so cute I am sure you can't stay upset with her for long!

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