Younger and Older…

When we were preparing to adopt little M, we learned that for every three months a child spends in an orphanage, they are one month behind developmentally and emotionally.
Since little M was almost thirty months old when she was adopted, she would have been about ten months behind, which would have put her at an age equivalent of twenty months.
Little M has caught up in so many areas, and is on target in many of those areas. In some areas, though, she is farther behind. In some areas, she is testing at a two year old level.
Sometimes, though, she seems so much older. She has seen more, and had more changes in her life than most adults have, and that has aged her in a way I can’t explain. Sometimes, she acts like she is equal to us. She sees herself as, or equal to, an adult. She doesn’t understand that we are the boss of her, and it is our job to take care of her.

Other times, little M seems much younger than her almost three years. Sometimes, she seems like she is about to turn two, and even if she was turning two, she would still be behind in some areas.

We are so pleased with how little M has settled in and how she is adjusting. I love to watch her learning and I love to see how she is really starting to be able to talk and communicate.
Little M has some things going on with her hearing that may be preventing her from learning to speak. Maybe nothing is wrong with her hearing, and the speech will come slowly, and that is ok. If something IS wrong with her hearing, we want to make sure we give her every opportunity to succeed. We love this little girl, and we are so proud of her and we are so proud of the way she has worked so hard to learn so many new things. I love her determination, and I know she is going to do great things.


  1. Musings from Kim K. on March 15, 2011 at 1:31 pm

    I just love seeing her sweet little face. Tomorrow, we celebrate our 3 year Josie anniversary. It's gone by so fast. We still celebrate milestones. I'm putting together a special post for our anniversary. Hugs!

  2. Stefanie on March 16, 2011 at 1:24 pm

    Love this perspective… you are so right! We have experienced this with our kiddos as well.Thank you for sharing your precious girl with us 🙂

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